I see you there. You read the title and started nodding vigorously. Anyone identifying as a parent has been shamed at some point in their quest for survival and joy.
Here is an exhausting list of things parents get shamed for. It's okay to laugh.
...then sigh. And remember, live and let live. We're all on the same team here.
Having an epidural
Having an emergency or elected C-section
Having a home birth
Having or acquiring a baby any kind of way
Not losing weight fast enough after birth
Losing weight too quickly
Dropping a bite of guac on the baby's head while you desperately try to eat your first meal in 12 hours.
Breastfeeding in public
Breastfeeding for over a year
Pumping at work
Breastfeeding at all
Bottle Feeding any liquid
Not picking your baby up fast up enough when they're crying
Not letting your baby cry for a minute before picking them up
Holding your baby as they fall asleep
Putting your baby down, swaddled, to sleep
Nursing your baby to sleep
Not dressing your baby warm enough in the winter or cool enough in the summer
Not putting a towel on your baby fast enough after a bath.
Bringing your baby out in public too soon because you needed groceries
Not having a partner
Having a partner, but they're not standing right next to you at the moment
Having a child whose gender is too hard to guess
Having a child whose name is too “weird”
Not having breasts
Having a body with limbs and moving blood.
Did I miss anything? Of course I did!