You're an Educated, Informed, and Thoughtful Working Mom--Why do you need a Doula?

You decided to get an education and your career up and running.

Maybe you waited to get married because you wanted to take your time finding the right partner. You wanted to make the best choice, not the fastest.

Or maybe you married young and wanted to travel for a few years and enjoy life before kids.

Maybe you chose NOT to get married because all you need is your bad ass self.

Maybe you tried for three years to conceive and only now are carrying a rainbow baby.

Maybe you finally brought home a beautiful baby you carried in your heart but not your body.

Either way, here you are (maybe) pregnant and giddy to meet your child. There's so much you want to show him or her, so many snuggles to relish, baby head smells to inhale. You are ready to spend time with your newborn and haven't really thought about what the postpartum time might look like outside of newborn care. Where do those new minutes really go?

Or maybe you feel overwhelmed as a first time mom. You don't know how someone becomes a mom and returns to work like a huge transformation didn't just take place.

How can a doula can help you?

Even though you might not realize it yet

Before baby you were living a delicate balance between working and living for yourself, maybe a dog or cat and spouse. Now you have a new human to live for and with. It's a full time job to feed, diaper, rock a baby AND still take care of yourself! That's where we come in. We can give you piece of mind and balance.

A doula can

  • Help you with chores so you don't feel like your house is falling a part all around you.

  • help you learn how to use that pump so you're knowledgeable and prepared for your return to work.

  • Help you come up with a new schedule now that your whole life has changed.

  • Give you valuable time to sleep

  • Prepare you a few meals and fold your laundry

How is Rae different?

I know better than to assume all working moms want the same thing. I don't come into your home, checklist in hand, without first working with you on what you want our time together to look like. The postpartum care I provide is customized to your needs and desires. That means if you just want me to show you how to wear baby to the grocery store, I'm on it. If you just want me to facilitate a family visit with folks you don't want to touch the baby, I'm on it.

Most importantly, you don't get just any surprise doula sent to you from an agency. You get Rae Jager. every. single. time.

And then you know what? You return to work stronger, ready, and so grateful for the time you got to spend with baby and not getting bogged down in all the chores you hate!

America Has a Hate Problem. Let's Talk About It.

Trigger Warning: Violence

It has been a draining weekend with news of shootings nipping at our heels. It seems that these violences, motivated by hate, have become as common as brewing morning coffee. It's hard to turn anger and fear into productivity while we are healing over and over again, especially when change seems so distant.

As a Jew, I personally worry about my daughter and what the future will bring for her, if one day someone decides that her life is not valuable. I am invested in influencing her and the children in her life towards acceptance and respect.

More importantly, it is my job as a postpartum doula, to ensure that after a baby has entered the world, they are safe and continue to be as such.

Although violence seems to be dominating our culture, there are some actions we can take as parents, while our hands are unfortunately tied in the gun reform department.

Thoughts and prayers are not enough

Though they are wonderful and healing. Calling your legislature and having a productive phone conversation is a harder push. If everyone called, voicemails would overflow with informed constituent messages. Then we might be able to push the conversation upwards! Don’t know how to talk to your senator or congressperson? Read this!

America has a problem with hatred, and men seem to be the ones most often acting out that hate. There, I said it.

It might seem overly simple, but we need to be having conversations with our sons, showing them physical and emotional love, and being an example of tolerance. We need to identify early violent warning signs and nip anger problems quickly. What to watch for?—Bullying (being both bullied and bullying--cyber and real life), violence towards animals, reclusion, acting out, visiting websites with messages of violence, etc. To learn more about how to identify the signs, read here.

Have a family plan

It can't hurt to have an exit strategy during festivals, while visiting theme parks, cinemas, and other places crowded with strangers. That strategy plan might simply be to designate the nearest safe place and how to get there as a family.

Be the ongoing eyes and ears for your community.

Law enforcement is usually the last to be alerted when a violence occurs. They are the bandaid placed over a wound that already exists. Look out for your neighbors and identify early warning signs mentioned above. Be there for your neighbors because they are the ones we turn to when times get difficult.

Get involved in your community. It's true that the actions we take ripple outwards. If we engage in showing our kids we are listening, invested, and care, we are creating a space for communication.