You're an Educated, Informed, and Thoughtful Working Mom--Why do you need a Doula?

You decided to get an education and your career up and running.

Maybe you waited to get married because you wanted to take your time finding the right partner. You wanted to make the best choice, not the fastest.

Or maybe you married young and wanted to travel for a few years and enjoy life before kids.

Maybe you chose NOT to get married because all you need is your bad ass self.

Maybe you tried for three years to conceive and only now are carrying a rainbow baby.

Maybe you finally brought home a beautiful baby you carried in your heart but not your body.

Either way, here you are (maybe) pregnant and giddy to meet your child. There's so much you want to show him or her, so many snuggles to relish, baby head smells to inhale. You are ready to spend time with your newborn and haven't really thought about what the postpartum time might look like outside of newborn care. Where do those new minutes really go?

Or maybe you feel overwhelmed as a first time mom. You don't know how someone becomes a mom and returns to work like a huge transformation didn't just take place.

How can a doula can help you?

Even though you might not realize it yet

Before baby you were living a delicate balance between working and living for yourself, maybe a dog or cat and spouse. Now you have a new human to live for and with. It's a full time job to feed, diaper, rock a baby AND still take care of yourself! That's where we come in. We can give you piece of mind and balance.

A doula can

  • Help you with chores so you don't feel like your house is falling a part all around you.

  • help you learn how to use that pump so you're knowledgeable and prepared for your return to work.

  • Help you come up with a new schedule now that your whole life has changed.

  • Give you valuable time to sleep

  • Prepare you a few meals and fold your laundry

How is Rae different?

I know better than to assume all working moms want the same thing. I don't come into your home, checklist in hand, without first working with you on what you want our time together to look like. The postpartum care I provide is customized to your needs and desires. That means if you just want me to show you how to wear baby to the grocery store, I'm on it. If you just want me to facilitate a family visit with folks you don't want to touch the baby, I'm on it.

Most importantly, you don't get just any surprise doula sent to you from an agency. You get Rae Jager. every. single. time.

And then you know what? You return to work stronger, ready, and so grateful for the time you got to spend with baby and not getting bogged down in all the chores you hate!

Paced Bottle Feeding

Many mothers return to work after 3 months. returning to work doesn't have to hinder the breastfeeding relationship. One of the best ways to continue breastfeeding and ensure that your baby is able to take a bottle while you're away, is to teach your infant how to pace bottle feed. This is a style of bottle feeding that mimics breastfeeding. It's actually very simple to do, and below I will put a video.

Before having bottle in hand, there are a few things to keep in mind.

Introduce a bottle at around 6 weeks.

Timing is everything.

Waiting too long to introduce a bottle sometimes results in baby being unwilling to take one.

Choose a slow-flow nipple

That is a newborn nipple, size 1, or even a preemie nipple.

Sit baby upright during feeding, instead of laying down.

With paced bottle feeding, babies are actually active participants. We have to watch them closely to see their feeding cues. Sitting them upright slows the flow of milk and encourages baby to suck harder.

Take frequent breaks to burp baby

What we know from observing babies is they don't instantly get milk. Babies suck for a good while before a let down. Additionally, milk does not flow the entire time during a feed. Our breasts empty a bit, then another let down is signaled. To mimic this, let baby suck for a few seconds before allowing the nipple to fill with milk. During the feed, allow for plenty of time to burp that air out!

Switch sides like you would on the breast

Moving baby to your other knee not only mimic breastfeeding, it also helps develope baby's neck and eye muscles, as they learn to look at you from the other side of your body.

Want to see paced bottle feeding in action? Watch below.

Nursing Baby Past One

There are so many myths and stigmas surrounding breastfeeding toddlers. Why? Well that's a complicated answer left for much more space than one blog allows. Below is one woman’s (my dear friend, actually) musings on “extended” breastfeeding (really though, why don’t we just call it breastfeeding….that’s all it is!).


As my husband, in-laws, and I moved through the furniture store looking for a glider they wanted to gift me as a new mother, I carefully balanced my newborn in my arms while trying to fix her latch under a receiving blanket. My mother-in-law casually took the blanket and said, “you don’t need this.” It was the most liberating thing she could have done. I didn’t know this at the time, but breastfeeding would become the next thirteen years of my life. The sooner I learned to worry about the comfort of myself and my baby—the better.

There is evidence to suggest that as long as a breastfeeding relationship continues, it will provide nutrition as well as immunological protection.

But you know those studies they did that said that hugging is healthy? The breastfeeding studies were like that for me, confirming what I had already been witnessing and was my own common sense. Anthropological work has already told us that when natural weaning occurs it is closer to when the first molars begin to appear. 

My best friend’s three-year-old recently had surgery. Her tonsils, and adenoids were removed, and she had an epiglottoplasty. Getting medicine into a groggy three-year-old is difficult, let alone keeping her hydrated. Since they still have nursing relationship, she is able to get food and liquid into her daughter’s body, all while feeding her antibodies and stem cells for quicker healing. Her recovery time was much shorter than it was supposed to be. Of course, this is anecdotal, but still, there it is. 

The WHO and Unicef recommends breastfeeding to two years and beyond.

When my children turned two, they still needed to nurse. When a child is nursing at three, they are nursing less frequently. And by four and five, it isn’t often. But when my four-year-old had a violent stomach virus, holding them and feeding them from the milk I made just for them, kept them hydrated and helped them to recover quicker. 


Something to consider is that extended breastfeeding (breastfeeding beyond one year) simply be called breastfeeding. When it is tagged “extended,” that eludes to there being a norm, and this falling outside of that norm.

This human-derived term creates a definitive line: once you pass day three-hundred and sixty-five, you are into the new territory and your baby’s body will be done with your milk, which will likewise become unusable. You may self-destruct. 

When we went to the library and my preschooler would touch everything (no hyperbole here, folks) and put everything into their mouths. I was relaxed, knowing I would still be feeding them immunity. When they became sick with fever I could taker refuge in knowing that I was hydrating them, comforting them, and once again feeding antibodies to their immature immune systems. 

Nursing an older child will coo them to sleep. It continues to nourish them. When they get hurt it calms them. While they are learning this big world, it centers them and tells them there is a safe place of refuge within their mother, still, and always. Our children grow, it is what they were designed to do. No one is going to nurse until they leave for college, and that equation is ridiculous. They will always wean, and when that day comes it is bittersweet. 

I know many women who nursed beyond three and, often, they were made to feel ashamed—to hide. Our culture has decided they can name the ways in which a woman’s body works.

They have decided that breasts are innately sexual in nature. They grossly pervert the feeding of a human child when that is the crux of humanity’s existence!  Just as you can be a mother and a lover—breasts can play a dual-role, as well. 

Nursing my children into two, three, four, and five was an evolution of gift. Always changing, never looking the same, just like the breastmilk itself—altering to the needs of the situation. I say take the covers off. Take away the fear or need to hide while feeding your child. Don’t let the dictation of a woman’s body seep further into the clutches of this culture. Let women go where they will and let them feed their child where and how they like, and please let’s normalize the image of a woman feeding an infant as far into their future as they see fit, all while loving and supporting them. If you see a mama nursing, take her a water and tell her what a gift she is. 


Small Business Tuesday-

Talking about babies is heavy.

Sometimes you just want to relax and not be a human pacifier and/or diaper changer on duty 24/7.

One of the ways to do that is get a facial. This was the best decision I made after Ivy was born, and I met with a talented and passionate skincare specialist just outside of Cincinnati.

Meet Al Kirkendol, an esthetician (skincare specialist) at 501 Spa in Bellevue, KY. She believes in the importance of taking care of our skin.

Our skin is the second-most complex organ of the body, being surpassed only by the brain. Let’s honor our skin by taking care of it.

If you’ve never had a facial before, I’ll give you a run down. Al first meets with you to discuss your skin goals. She assess what products will be the best for your skin type (even super sensitive skin), and gives you a run down of what she plans on doing in the time you booked. A jade roller, a few hot towels, lots of botanical smelling creams tailored to your skin type, and a scalp massage later, you walk away with really soft, clear skin. It's a great way to reset. Additionally, Al can help you improve your skin outside of the spa by helping adjust and refine your skincare routine.

You can book her here.

And follow her on Instagram @al.kirkendol.

Al Kirkendol

Al Kirkendol