Paced Bottle Feeding

Many mothers return to work after 3 months. returning to work doesn't have to hinder the breastfeeding relationship. One of the best ways to continue breastfeeding and ensure that your baby is able to take a bottle while you're away, is to teach your infant how to pace bottle feed. This is a style of bottle feeding that mimics breastfeeding. It's actually very simple to do, and below I will put a video.

Before having bottle in hand, there are a few things to keep in mind.

Introduce a bottle at around 6 weeks.

Timing is everything.

Waiting too long to introduce a bottle sometimes results in baby being unwilling to take one.

Choose a slow-flow nipple

That is a newborn nipple, size 1, or even a preemie nipple.

Sit baby upright during feeding, instead of laying down.

With paced bottle feeding, babies are actually active participants. We have to watch them closely to see their feeding cues. Sitting them upright slows the flow of milk and encourages baby to suck harder.

Take frequent breaks to burp baby

What we know from observing babies is they don't instantly get milk. Babies suck for a good while before a let down. Additionally, milk does not flow the entire time during a feed. Our breasts empty a bit, then another let down is signaled. To mimic this, let baby suck for a few seconds before allowing the nipple to fill with milk. During the feed, allow for plenty of time to burp that air out!

Switch sides like you would on the breast

Moving baby to your other knee not only mimic breastfeeding, it also helps develope baby's neck and eye muscles, as they learn to look at you from the other side of your body.

Want to see paced bottle feeding in action? Watch below.

Calming an Upset Baby

Dr. Karp was onto something when he came up with the 5 S’s. For those of you that don’t know Dr. Karp or the tactics he uses to calm babies, you might want to read or watch, “Happiest Baby on the Block.” Here’s the summary: When baby is upset, try the 5 S's.

The 5 S’s

This baby is swaddled, swung, shh-ed, and on her side. All she’s missing is a pacifier. She was instantly calmed.

This baby is swaddled, swung, shh-ed, and on her side. All she’s missing is a pacifier. She was instantly calmed.

  • Swaddle- Help baby feel hugged, warm, and safe by swaddling them up.

  • Side- Hold baby on their side to help prevent arm flailing.

  • Swing (or any rhythmic movement will work)-If baby is very upset, you’ll want to swing them more vigorously until they’re able to calm down a bit, then continue a moderate, calming swing back and forth. Baby was moving inside a body for a long time. They crave this motion.

  • Suck- Babies are born wanting to suck. You can nurse baby or pop in a pacifier (research says nipple confusion isn’t as common as people say).

  • Shhhhh- It is LOUD inside mom’s body—blood is moving, a heart is beating, food is digesting, there's mysterious popping and gurgling. Babies are used to this orchestra. White noise, of any kind (and you’ll learn quickly what baby prefers—vacuum or washing machine) helps settle baby.

Of course it’s important to make sure that baby isn’t crying because he or she is hungry, has a wet diaper, or is overly tired. In those instances, it’s important to meet baby’s immediate needs.


Sometimes those 5 S’s don’t work on their own.

Think about being inside a body for 9 or 10 months and then suddenly being cast out into a bright and loud world. It’s startling, scary, and newborns need some extra love to settle after being worked up in a big way. When the 5 S’s don’t work, what can you do?

Magical Hold - I can’t even explain what’s happening here. It’s genius. Just watch below.

fussy baby hold

Fussy Baby Hold- This is what it looks like to your left. A little pressure on baby’s belly helps, in addition to them feeling like they’re suspended once again in mom’s womb.

Go Outside- A change in scenery does wonders. It doesn’t matter if it’s cold or hot (though cold weather is preferred, we can’t control nature)—taking baby outside resets them.

It does take some time to learn what comfort measures newborns prefer. When one tactic doesn’t work, try another.

Additionally, newborns change every single day. What works one day, might not work the next.

If the crying ever becomes too much—set baby down somewhere safe—and step away for a few moments to breathe. Try again. The newborn stage doesn’t last forever, and though it’s difficult now, it does get easier.